Everyone seemed to like the post from Kelly Clarkson’s new album so much, I thought I’d share another track. Then I noticed all the songs in my collection with the word “Stronger” in the title (also the cover of Kelly’s album) so I thought I’d do a theme to my music posts all week. So…
*Each day this week I am posting a song with the word, “Stronger”, in the title as a reminder that all of us are stronger than we think most of the time.
Hang in there, Tanner. There are such wonderful things in store for you and I don’t want you to miss a single minute of them.
"Tanner, 14, self identifies as gay, and his online profile states: "I hate people. And life." In response to the cyberbullying Tanner has experienced, the "We Love You Tanner" Tumblr began to send a simple message: You deserve love and there are people who care about you. ♥"
That post above is the my post to Tanner. Not that I’m the boss of you, but you should go post one too.
The question is… can you love us knowing that we believe differently? and can we be a part of each others’ lives knowing that we have different beliefs?
We have accepted that you believe differently than we do. And we love you. Can you say the same?
After much deliberation and a lot of second-guessing myself, I decided I should write one last message to my brother. I felt it wouldn’t be right to not give him some explanation before I move ahead without him and his family. I wrote:
Well, I’m not really sure how best to answer that question. Because you’re my family, I will always have love in my heart for each of you — that has never changed nor will it ever. But, I can no longer keep up this one-sided attempt at reconciliation anymore. The rejection by you, the stubborn close-mindedness in reaction to me, and the hypocritical bigotry inherent in how you, and those who think like you, view the world is more than I can bear. I realize that you do not (or, more aptly put, refuse to) see it this way, but to think of yourself as accepting of me is a mistake. You may be accepting of our differences but that is an entirely different thing altogether that has nothing at all to do with the acceptance that comes from real, familial love. Our relationship has become as toxic to me as the one between me and our father. Just as with him, in the interest of my own well-being and self-preservation, I feel I must distance myself from the hurt & disappointment I feel when I even think about you all.
As I’ve discussed in previous posts, I’ve had some issues with my brother and his family, mostly around his feelings regarding same-sex marriage and LGBT equality. He cannot support either because his religion tells him that being Gay is a sin, so that’s what he believes to be the truth. Because we both have such strong feelings on these issues, we’ve been estranged, not seeing one another in over three years.
Upon reading this article, I felt compelled to share it with my brother and his wife, in hopes they might find a way to change their minds, even if only slightly, by applying some logic to their beliefs. Along with a link to the article, I sent this:
This is from the soundtrack to a TV special that Spike Lee made back in the early 90’s that starred an array of a cappella singing groups like Take 6, The Persuasions, and Ladysmith Black Mambazo. There are several great songs on the soundtrack, but this is one of my favorites as there are members of each group singing together in harmony.
No idea why I’ve had this song on my mind so much lately, but I thought maybe sharing it would help to exorcize it a bit. If you don’t know The Beautiful South, I recommend you check them out. This cover of the song from ‘Grease’ is pretty atypical of their stuff, but I kinda dig it. Enjoy!